The Me, Me, Me Epidemic: A Step-by-Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over-Entitled World

Me, Me, Me continues on with many of the same points of the author's previous book. The goal is to empower children to make good decisions that help them and society in the long run. To enable this, the parent needs to start be spending time with the child ("mind body and soul time"). Then there must be clear boundaries, together with plenty of opportunity for children to make good decisions for themselves.
She spends time analyzing "privilege". People are concerned about having benefits that were not due to their own work. She even thinks she got privilege from her degree - even though she spent great effort to obtain it. This is again, a modern liberal view. The "disadvantages" focus on certain "key" areas, but ignore other things. Why should we even try for equality? The diversity of genetics make people differently equipped for different tasks. (Short people are inherently disadvantaged as basketball stars.) Upbringing also is an important benefit. Historically, wealth and position were passed down through generations. Even without that, the upbringing lets people have more experience and training in certain areas. Denying this can limit the possible growth of society.
For money, the book advocates a "no strings attached" allowance is a way to encourage kids to manage money. The book advocates encouragement rather than praise and encourages empathy. It also encourages empathy with kids. They need to have intrinsic motivation to do what is right. They also benefit greatly by having the opportunity to fail while they are young rather than when they get older.

If I Have to Tell You One More Time...: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids To Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling

Amy McCready sells a "Positive Parenting Solutions"service that helps implement many of the policies described in the book. The solutions are based on Alderian psychology. Children are seaking out attention and needs. They see the ways that parents interact and want to participate also. In the past, families had a more hierarchical structure. Dad was the ultimate boss. Mom was fully in charge while Dad was at work. Mom obeyed Dad. Kids obeyed Mom. Today, however, parents are equal. They debate in front of children. Children see this and expect to be participants also.
This book provides a number of tools to help parents raise their children with discipline rather than punishment. Many of the "punishments" make things worse.
The first tool is "Mind Body and Soul" time. Have time dedicated to interacting with the child on their own. From there, use a calm voice and encourage rather than praise. Empower children by training and giving them choices. Decide what you will do and control the environment. Use "When - then" to explain consequences and routines. Let natural consequences play out rather than "saving children". Develop logical consequences for cases where the natural may take too long or be unsafe to carry out. Either or can be used for an option.
Many misbehavior are a result of mistaken goals. They may want undue attention, power, or revenge. Or they may be so far down that they have assumed inadequacy. Dealing with these goals may require conterintuitive actions. Ignore special special requests (after informing children they will be ignored.) Let consequences play out. Invite cooperation rather than bossing. Withdraw from conflict. When a fight does need to be broken up, seek to understand feelings rather than assign blame. Finally, tie all of this together with weekly family meetings where the kids play a role.
It all seems like a good strategy that requires significant discipline to implement. At first, there will likely be some pushback form the kids, but it seems like it will pay off.